I had my eleven year old son and my husband evaluate me as a communicator. I would have liked to have one colleague do this, but since it is summer, I was not able to get together with any of them. Bummer! I would also be interested in how my students would rate me!
I decided to choose my son because he’s old enough to understand the questions and I thought he would provide a different view on my communication. He is almost twelve and going into the 6th grade this fall. We have been experiencing A LOT of pre-teen problems at my house lately. Consequently, yelling and grounding have been a common occurrence this summer. I was so surprised when his results were spot on with mine. My husband’s results were right there, too. I guess my evaluation of my communication style is right, at least within my family.
I really enjoyed reading about how self-esteem and self-concept influence the communication process. I found it interesting that people with low self-esteem often need to show affection in public (O’Hair & Weimann, 2009). PDA is a problem with some of my students. I never thought about it being a result of low self-esteem. I will now make an effort to address this problem more sensitively. O’Hair and Weimann (2009) also address that people can influence others’ self-fulfilling prophecies either positively or negatively. This is something educators do on a daily basis and we need to make sure that we are always a positive influence.
O’Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2009). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.