My son and I are constantly conflicting over his chores and video games. I have a rule that he has to finish his daily chores before he plays, but lately he has been ignoring his responsibilities. I take away the game for days at a time as punishment. When I give it back he falls back into the same routine. I can’t understand why he doesn’t do his chores when he knows he will lose his video game. It seems to really bother him that he can’t play. I am not sure what to do now. Does anyone have any ideas?
I have learned a lot about conflict from this week’s resources. For example, after reviewing the information at The Center for Nonviolent Communication’s website, I realize that I am trying to exert my power over my child in a demanding way. I need to find a way that we can work together and reach a compromise. We seem to have a difference of opinion on what a clean room looks like. Maybe if we define this together we won’t have as much conflict. It is quite clear that our conflict has been unproductive as we have the same arguments over and over and our relationship seems to be compromised (O’Hair & Weimann, 2009). I look forward to your suggestions on how to turn this situation into productive conflict.
Center for Nonviolent Communication. (2005). Foundations of NVC. Retrieved from http://www.cnvc.org/learn/nvc-foundations
O’Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2009). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.